Lying is GOOD!

I wanted to do yet another topic on RAoK (Random Acts of Kindness) but couldn’t think of a thing! >.< I thought I had another idea after that last post I did, but if I did – it has all but temporarily evaporated. So, in lieu of that idea that I did have, I have this one (It was this or Gamer Etiquette. :P ). I’m sure some of you are intrigued by the title already and asking, “How in the world can lying be constituted as good?!“. Well if some of you remember, I did a topic on lying earlier, how it is like a Human’s sort of camouflage.

However, it can also be used as a tool to motivate. Allow me to explain with also an example (I have examples!). Many of you do not know, but I am a fan of the show “Sliders“. I’ve been watching some of it on Netflix since, I don’t believe, it airs anymore on Television like when I was a teen. In season 2, episode 7 – In Dino Veritas, they had just come from a world where “Truth Collars” were mandatory and if you lied, you would be shocked. The bigger the lie, the bigger and deadlier the shock. Too many lies and well – you’re dead, obviously. :P

Throughout this entire episode they struggled to say things that sounded hopeful, meaningful, uplifting or otherwise to help raise their Spirits or the Morale of the others in the group – only to be rudely “Shocked” because it turned out to be nothing more than a lie. It became quite clear and apparent to me that I have done similar things when I have been nervous in doing something or when I tried to motivate myself into “believing” I could do something.

Sometimes the “lie” does make it easier and gives us just that little extra something that we do indeed need. It may sound like false hope, but in reality it’s just that extra little “push” we need. Otherwise, if we always were so “Truthful” and “Honest” as the Slider team were forced to be in this particular episode, we might come off sounding very pessimistic-realistic (a bleak sense of reality) and we may even end up telling people things we wouldn’t normally want them to know, especially if we slipped up (much like in this episode with poor Wade at the beginning!).

So what I’d like my readers to do, is think back to a time where they had to tell themselves a lie to give themselves or others “Hope” or “Motivation” even if they didn’t completely believe what they said themselves. You don’t have to share what the experience was or otherwise, but I think it would be interesting to see just how many folks do this and how accurate this just might be.

If any of you folks have other suggestions for other Blog topic ideas, comments (Duh! Obviously!), questions or would like to help me with expanding my collection of RAoK topics (PLEASE DO!) I’d like to write, please feel free to leave something below in the comments section. Thank you for reading as always!

~Blessings, good fortune, quality of life and more, Namaste~

Random Acts of Kindness: Unexpected Appreciation

In my last P.A.U. (Personal Author Update) I discussed doing and/or sharing “Random act of kindness” which are “senseless acts of beauty“. So I got it in my head today that RAoK is what should be the topic for my next blog.

The theme as you can see is “Unexpected Appreciation“. This is about the folks who do the “grunt” or “dirty work” that most other folks may or may not want to do. The jobs that keep the cogs and wheels turning of our society that allow us to enjoy and benefit from the modern conveniences that we have today. Folks like the Delivery Person who delivers your package, food or other goods, the people in the cooler where the Milk and other refrigerated products are kept, Waiters and Waitresses, all those sorts of nitty-gritty jobs, that’s what I’m talking about.

The kinds of jobs that some folks would absolutely either dread, have done and hate and refuse to ever do again or might even slightly enjoy because it keeps them out of sight and mind so no one bothers them (except for the boss), asks questions or just pesters them in general because – let’s face it, some customers and/or clients – can be very rude and obnoxious.

You know the customers that leave product on the ground that has to be “claimsed” out (this means to tag out the product because it can no longer be sold because it has been ruined in some way), leave frozen things out after they decided not to buy them, drop their kids off in electronics or toys leaving a mass of mayhem and chaos in their wakes, the ones who have a grudge and pick you as the first person to take their company complaints and vendettas against (Yeah, you all! You know who you are!).

Now that you got a pretty good picture of what those unruly and rude customers are like, hopefully you can understand why I picked this very thing to cover. To me, these folks, in a way, are like the unsung Heroes of whatever it is – they do. They put up with SO much! Even I had to put up with crap like this when I worked in retail and it happens often and daily. Some of you may have wondered before I described the “Worst Customers Ever“, “Why this?“, but hopefully you understand now why some folks, especially these folks, might grow to hate their jobs or otherwise and why I chose them specifically as my focus. More

P.A.U. 23 – Food for Thought?

Hello folks!

It has been a very long time since I have updated my blog, which was back in March. I was also made aware of this by an avid fan/reader of my blog via my Facebook Fanpage in a personal message. I’ll admit, I was kind of in a writer’s “Funk“. No; not Writer’s Block, just a “Funk” and I was having some trouble digging myself out of it. You know when you have a bunch of weeds take over your garden after letting it “go” for so long (even if you don’t, just try to imagine this)? Ye-ah, that’s kind of what this was like. It felt like I was all alone to weed the mess by myself, but I didn’t have the strength or the energy to do the big arduous task alone. I needed help.

This fan (Not naming names, that’s up to them in comments) wrote me a very nice message asking me simply how I was doing and wanted to know if everything was all right since they hadn’t seen a post in a while. I very much appreciated this. I appreciate the thought a fan cared enough about me to ask me how I was doing. The conversation after? That’s what I needed to hear to rekindle a little “Oomph!” in my fire again.

I’m not rich. I’m not someone of high rank or prestige. I am no one famous (least not yet or I might be to my fans, no idea). I am simply a flower, trying to grow with what very little I can and sometimes…I get a little “choked out” by the “Weeds” around me. While more often than not, if a plant is determined enough to survive, it will, but sometimes they could use a helping hand. Like an extra pair of hands to help weed, feed and tend. I try to do as much good as I can in this world through the work that I do (my Readings, Guided Meditations, Classes, etc) and – my writing.

I have always felt my writing can be and is a very powerful tool in my arsenal. However, for all the good I try to do in this world it is a rare occurrence to be genuinely and sincerely thanked for what you do or to sometimes get a kind word of “Nice work!“, “Good Job!“, “I love what you do! Keep it up!“. I have done what I do for a good part of my life, even before I officially became an adult and went out into the world. I never expect any “Thank you!“s much less anything else. Oh sure, I got the “Superficial” thank yous, but those to me aren’t real.

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An Open Letter to the Fashion Industry and Media

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I know what the title says and it’s true, this is my open letter to them – AND – to YOU. Yes you. That short and stout, the big and tall, the svelte and short, tall and svelte, the big breasted or too small to count (at least to those ignorant to think so) lad and lassie. I know your pains, for I have felt them too. I know friends and family who could even sympathize with you.

It sucks when you feel singled out in a world that caters to a supposed “Average”. You go to the store when it is time to find new shoes or clothes, but either something is too long, such as the sleeves or pant-legs even. Maybe it is the ‘bust’ on that beautiful blouse that’s in size “XS” but the bust you’d swear is “32C” instead of perhaps a “32A” like you feel it should be.

We cry, “It’s not fair! It’s not right!” because we shouldn’t be made to feel like we are anything ‘less’ for choosing to be who we are – or want to be. Whether that is aesthetics or personality. We also know people will say, “Well the world isn’t fair, don’t you know that!” and you know what? I think that’s a load of rubbish. I believe the world could be fair if it wanted to be, maybe even if perhaps we believed it to be. It’s just other negative people around us who keep perpetuating this negative notion that there is no “Fairness” in the world.

You have every right to feel angry and upset that you often feel singled out by the Fashion Industry and/or the Media. Even give them the “Ol’bird”. It’s really all their fault anyway. They find what they consider, “The Average” and make clothing to cater to it. Then it’s “One size fits most” and you know – you aren’t “most“. Your body is as unique as your personality, and you know that for a fact.

What’s also not fair, is for people who tend to run on the “Skinny” or “Svelte” side of things, they make our clothes based off run-way models whom many have been bullied into changing their figures or getting plastic surgery to fit the Fashion and Media’s idea of what “beautiful” is in the first place.

Maybe you were even told to “Go eat a sandwich“, even in a joking manner, only to find you thought it rather insulting because people really don’t know how much you’ve tried to gain weight but never have any luck. Or perhaps – you’re just built that way and happy with your size but find it very ignorant of them for saying such things without even asking you how you feel about your own weight – or why so skinny? in the first place. More

Back in the Saddle? P.A.U. 22

Merry meet again Folks!

I know it’s been a long while. In fact all the way back in May was when last I posted and you may have seen very little to no activity as well on my Twitter account too. Allow me to start by apologizing to you, my readers. I know there are some who really do enjoy my writing and I really appreciate you, the reader, for many reasons.

I want to let you all know that during my time that I slipped away…I was on a very much-needed Hiatus. I went into “Hermit-Mode” and was busy being an “Awesome Hermit” for the past several months. I wasn’t completely anti-social but I decided to focus on my real life (by that – I mean life outside the web) because not only did I have serious important family issues that could not be ignored with my Mother, but I also had realized that I wasn’t as healed as I thought I was from the last big serious blows I had suffered the past couple years. More

How Do You Wear the Title “Villain” Proudly?

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English: A stereotypical caricature of a villain (i.e. generic melodrama villain stock character, with handlebar moustache and black top-hat). (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Hello Folks!

Welcome back for yet another rousing musing from my mind.

First, I want to send out a Happy Mother’s Day message to all the mother’s out there. I still haven’t gotten a chance to call one of my Mother’s but I hope to call her sometime today and wish her a late one myself. As for my actual Mother’s Day, I actually got to get my Blood-mother out to go see Iron Man 3 at Shelton Cinemas.

For those wondering, it was good and worth your money.

I will tell you something got me a little down yesterday when I wrote this (which is why I held off on publishing it too), so I’m not sure I’m back to full strength yet on my writing, but I’m going to try to put something good out for you to enjoy and get you thinking nonetheless. :)

So here is the musing of the day.

This literally just came to me today/yesterday and I thought to myself, “Hey yeah! That would be an interesting topic to discuss with my readers!“. :) So the musing of the day is this: We often try to put our best foot forward in life. We know that first impressions are important so we try to make them count – that is unless we don’t care. In this case you DO care. :P More

Samurai Jack Knows That Good Can Sometimes Waver

Samurai Jack

Samurai Jack (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I’m slowly but surely going to try to work through some of my drafts and some of “The Daily Post” responses because I liked some of the ones I missed. So keep your eyes peeled for those. Here’s a special topic drawn up for this week as from the “Draft” section of my inventory of words. Enjoy! ;)

One of my favorite Cartoons that used to air on Cartoon Network was Samurai Jack. Granted, I didn’t much care for the art style and at first it was difficult to get around it to watch the show and enjoy it. After a while, it was one of those shows that just ‘grew‘ on you. Art style, storyline, characters, strange alien Earth and all.

Netflix FINALLY got Season 1 in their inventory (though I’m confused about where the rest is) and I decided to re-watch some episodes for old times sake because – let’s face it – I missed the show. I was re-watching the episode “Under the Sea” and was reminded of a real-life situation where I too had experienced something like what Jack mentioned. For those who don’t know the episode very well, I can give you a link for a re-cap or you can watch the episode for a refresher. More

FanExpo 2013 – Review

Dawn (Me) striking a Heroic Pose in the driver's seat of the DeLorean (Time Machine from Back to the Future).

Dawn (Me) striking a Heroic Pose in the driver’s seat of the DeLorean (Time Machine from Back to the Future). Was my best picture I think.

Hello everyone!

Welcome back for the FanExpo of 2013 Review. It’s a week or week and a half late but oh well, better late than never I definitely say. :P

Did I have fun you wonder? Not as much as I usually have at say SakuraCon or possibly Emerald City ComiCon (and I’ve only been to ComiCon 1 year before mind you). It wasn’t the worst convention I’ve ever been too either, but it was one that showed it was a “Work-in-Progress“. So here are my Pros, what little there are, and Cons for FanExpo 2013 Experience.

Con 1; Ticket Lines – I got there at 5:30 in the morning hoping to beat many of the other people who would need to buy tickets at the door for the convention. Why? Well from the fact I’ve been to SakuraCon and know how long the door-line can get, it’s a wise idea, typically. However, I was also there because I had heard from a pretty reliable source that they “Oversold” tickets for the convention online.

So even if you HAD a ticket to get in, there was NO guarantee you might ACTUALLY get in after all. Which I know would have royally miffed a few Con-goers and the Con may very well be a disaster on that basis alone. However, as time went on it didn’t look quite like tickets were as much an issue as I once thought they were going to be. As they announced to us who were waiting, patient and eagar to buy our tickets in line, “We are going to start out selling 300 tickets,” and then they let slip the dogs of war. WHAT?! It was about to be a Geek-War come on! :P More

P.A.U. 21 – Long time no blog!

Hello everyone!

It’s FINALLY me again and I’m sorry it’s been pretty much 2 weeks, maybe over that without so much as a, “Hey! How you all doing? I’m okay! I got back home from my trip just fine and this is how FanExpo was!” but I have been busy. Not long after I came home I had to prep for house-sitting. Then while house-sitting, I know I’d have been blogging if I could, but I decided to help out around the house with some extra cleaning that I know would be appreciated by the family once they got back.

I did make it to FanExpo (2013) in Vancouver, B.C. and honestly? It wasn’t that impressive to me, but I have another blog I’d like to dedicate to it for a full detailed review as to why I wasn’t that thrilled with it. I will say putting my make-up on for my costume was totally worth it because I got recognized by a handful of people and THAT was fun. For those unaware, I went as ‘Dawn’ from the ‘Cry for Dawn‘ comics and ‘Dawn Trilogy‘. I just threw something together that looked Dawn-esque and went from there. The Make-up and accents are what really made it.

My man reminded me he missed my blogging which told me, I REALLY should try to make some time for updating my blog. I told myself I was going to, especially when I was house-sitting, but that didn’t work out so well. So here I am today, trying to do just that.

For those wondering about my ‘Donation Pool’ thing I’m trying to do, I have good news and bad news. Bad news is – I still have some kinks to work out of the 1st plan I had. The Good news? I may have yet another GREAT contingency plan that would work out far better than the 1st. Just all depends on YOU and the amount of traffic I bring in to my blog. I’ll tell you more as the plan truly unfolds and if I hit another ‘snag‘ I’ll tell you about it. Don’t worry.

Bright side? Some of the stuff on my ‘Project List‘ I want to see done, is slowly happening for some parts of the town. Houses that I wanted to help paint are getting painted, whether or not they are getting inspected too for health and safety though, is another story. Still, someone said, “Maybe it’s all your positive energy you are putting toward it that’s helping make it happen? And maybe it’s Spirit’s way of saying, You should save & spend your money on other projects – I got this one.” would be kind of cool.

Hard to say though. Any who, I need to update the info in the project page and hopefully type up some other posts today like a ‘Mad-woman’. I hope all of you out there are well and are experiencing blog success in your own way or whatever kind of success you’d like to be having right now. Until next time – thank you for reading!

~Blessings & good fortune, Namaste~

Is Business to Blame for Social Negative Reinforcement?

English: Don Mueang Airport domestic terminal,...

English: Don Mueang Airport domestic terminal, near Bangkok, Thailand – Thai Airways customer service counters. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

A dear friend of mine I met through SecondLife and I were sharing a conversation yesterday about our experiences in Retail. Especially those terribly “negative” experiences we have had in the retail environment. For those unfamiliar with the Retail market, it can be pretty cut-throat, unforgiving, unfair and sometimes – very unrewarding (especially sometimes with how the CUSTOMERS treat you). Course, it depends on the type of Retailer you are.

I tend to find Small Retail Businesses (Mom and Pop Stores) are better, friendlier, care about their employees (more often than not), appreciate them, believe in what they are selling and more. Course this isn’t true for EVERYONE I’m sure, but that’s been my experience.

However, during the conversation it sparked the idea for a possible Psychological aspect of Retail that goes unconsidered. Big Retailers often do specific things with their inventory (ex: Move sh*t around on you) that may annoy or irritate you, but the ploy that they are aiming for is to get you to spend more time than you’d like and tempt you to buy more than what you actually NEED. Some of you are probably going, “Well Duh!“, humor me – for those who don’t know. Thank you.

As I was saying, now while they have Psychological ploys like this to boost sales, my question is – are they thinking about some of the “Negative Reinforcement” they are helping to promote when it comes to society/their customer base? More

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