Sticks and Stones May Break My Bones – But Words Can STILL Be Hurtful

We all heard this rhyme when we were children, “Sticks and Stone may break my bones but words can never hurt me,” but what people don’t realize is that some words, when we are beaten day in and day out with them on a routine basis, can eventually take on the weight of those “Sticks and Stones” in a metaphorical sense. And these wounds can hurt for years and leave deep lasting marks far worse than any broken bone or scratch that may eventually become a scar. Recently a video was shared with me by a friend on this very thing. It says what I, essentially, wanted to rant about better than I feel I could to do it proper justice of how it affects others.

I was a victim of bullying myself from the time I was 6 till I was a Freshmen in High School. I also dealt with heavy and serious suicidal depression (don’t worry, wasn’t so bad I made attempts on my life or anything but I felt like I wanted to die, that was it) from 6-1/2 to 12 years of age and even after – the healing process was a continuous thing to mend the damage done especially by others who didn’t understand me, my home life situation or what had happened to me. Each of us have our own stories, scars, memories and other things we share. We don’t always have the same experiences but for each one of us out there our experiences affect us far differently than it will for someone else on the outside looking in.

So here it is, the video. I’m not going to lie – I almost cried watching this. I wanted to – but the tears wouldn’t come. This video deserves the well deserved tears of truth on all the points it hits home with. It’s worth your time and watching. When you finish watching, please share it with others you know who will appreciate it and may find some comfort in its truthfulness. I feel everyone should see this and this should even be on the Jumbotron in Time Square, but only if we were so lucky. Thank you.

Bullies Called Him Pork Chop

Thank you for reading and watching the video. Until next time, be well and lots of love!

~Light and Dark Blessings – Namaste~

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P.A.U. 17 – Another Sick Day & Another V-Day

Happy Single’s Awareness Day! (Photo credit: Max Braun)

Hello my dear readers, followers, visitors! Lend me our eyes!

Obviously I can’t say “ears” because you can’t “hear” me unless I did a vlog (video blog) and uploaded it or something here or on YouTube. I’m not fond of people seeing me typically online as it is (shhh! I know I have my avatar and the bio pic!) and so doing vlogs and possibly uploading them to Youtube, for me, is not exactly ideal. Though I may consider doing a video thing someday, about what? Hard to say. Maybe a class I’d normally give in person? Nah! Maybe something else. Though I am willing to do some Self-Enrichment classes in Second Life for those interested in that.

*cough, no really I’m coughing IRL* I’m sick again sadly and I was just getting  ready to do a new topic for the week when it happened. I’m coherent enough obviously to report in about my absence. Summerland forbid I try to actually write anything else, though maybe I am feeling a little better than I think I am.

Are You or Are You Not? That is the Question – Priest/ess

English: Priestess of the Egyptian goddess Isis, holding a situla (a bronze jug). Roman statue of the 2nd century AD, on display at the Museo Archaeologico Regionale, Palermo, Sicily. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

A true musing of my mind for you today folks. If you get “scared” grab a Plushie to hold, squeeze and cuddle (or a pet). If you get confused, which may or may not happen because I’m going to try my best to be pretty clear and not jump around too much, please ask me to clarify my meaning in comments. Thank you.
This is dedicated to all the Priests, Priestesses and others of that nature of all paths, orders, traditions, faiths or whatever and wherever you may be.

As primarily a Solitary Priestess on her path it has not always been easy, as I am sure it has been much the same for others like myself. People don’t often understand the trials, struggles and tribulations we experiences. The hardships and ridicule we endure. We’ve done nothing wrong except be ourselves and pursue a path that “fits”, “makes sense”, a part of who we are we cannot fight that brings us great joy and happiness in following that path. Conversely, there is also much sadness, sorrow, worries, doubts and fears too.

In modern society most people expect that anything you can/could do in the world can be proven with a single piece of paper that supposedly “claims” you’ve done some kind of official study with someone, somewhere to achieve this new level of understanding or learning. This too goes the same for Priests and Priestesses. I can’t tell you how many times, because honestly I don’t remember, I’ve told someone, “I’m self-studied” or “I’m self-taught/trained” and immediately they’ve ceased all contact with me or they’ve completely mocked, berated, belittled and ridiculed me.

It hurts, it sucks but there isn’t much you can do about it, except have faith in yourself and that you are following the right path for YOU.

Too many people, as I hear, get discouraged by these sorts of things, but again – it’s like what I’ve heard many a good Christian say, “It’s a test of your Faith. A test of your Dedication. A test of your Endurance, perseverance and personal strength.” I actually and honestly believe that, to a fair degree. See, when you follow a path that is considered, “Reconstructionist” to me, in a way, anything goes or your Path, can be whatever it needs to be or wants to be so long as it runs in the same vein of what your initially trying to pursue as your actual path.

The Illusion of Maturity

Experience (Photo credit: djniks)

While this may not be anything new to some of you and there could be a ton of stuff out there on this subject, we all have to tell our stories and point-of-view on certain subjects at some point, in our own way. So here’s mine on “Maturity“.

People like to throw this word around like a rag-doll all too often, Maturity. If you’re into dating older people than yourself there may have been a time or two you might have heard, “I thought you were more mature than that“. Those are dreaded words for, I’m sure, any good young man or woman to hear. Sometimes it is true. Other times it is a matter of the other party, the one thinking they are more mature themselves, that are missing the bigger picture entirely.

They forget that you are younger, they treat you as an equal but they may find themselves setting their standards a bit higher than they should, perhaps unfairly so. They set themselves up for disappointed. They also forget to use their understanding, compassion and tolerance. Hence the disappointment when you do anything they consider “Immature” and fall from the pedestal they put you on. However, I have come to understand that there is a difference between “Saying” one is mature and “Acting” or rather “Demonstrating” how one is more mature.

Do I Have a Relationship Addiction?

Reblogged from Let Life In Practices:

Do I have a difficult time not being in a relationship, even if I know that the person that I am with is not good for me?

Do I feel empty inside- especially when I am single?

Do I spend a lot of time trying to "fix" other people?

Am I attracted to very needy people or emotionally distant individuals?

Read more… 556 more words

This seemed appropriate to share on my blog and it can be a very big issue, especially when people don't recognize the behavior patterns.

United We Stand, Divided We Fall

This image was selected as a picture of the week on the Malay Wikipedia for the 1st week, 2010. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I know one of my readers (you know who you are) reported to me that 2012 has been one of the most profitable years despite the obvious Depression the United States and quite possibly the World has been under. I know there are still people out there desperate for jobs, food, a helpful and hopeful answer to the many questions that they may have regarding their fears, doubts and worries in these economic times. Those of you who remember your American History, if you remember anything about “The Great Depression“, probably remember sitting through movies or Documentaries depicting folks during “The Great Depression” in hovels (“Hoovervilles“), maybe in boarding home situations or other living conditions.

The American people, many of them, banded together to help one another out. Even if they didn’t like their living conditions or want things to be that way, they did what was necessary and humanely just for their fellow-man and it helped them to survive and get by. They shared their meals and what little they had with one another. Granted, there may have still been some crime during this time but I don’t remember hearing much about it. No; instead I heard stories of camaraderie and how the people demonstrated their distaste with President Herbert Hoover for not keeping to his word after making so many promises to the American People.

The Humble Brag vs. Bragging Outright

Honesty (Photo credit: basswulf)

Some of you are probably reading the title and wondering, “What in the world?! There’s more than one form of Bragging?! I didn’t even realize that!” or it’s the “Well, I thought about it before – just not very deeply. But this sounds interesting. Alright, I’ll bite. Tell me more,” insert deep-in-thought chin-stroke here. Yes; there is more than one form to “Brag” and most know bragging excessively is frowned upon in most societies.

But what are the differences and how can you identify them? That’s what I’d like to go over today as it ties in well to the “Cosmic Victim” topic I covered.

Now, someone who is a “Humble Brag” is an individual who is rather modest. When they speak of their accomplishments/achievements they either don’t give themselves enough credit and play-down their accomplishments (not excessively mind you) – or – they speak of their accomplishments with friends and family when it is appropriate and relevant. They don’t shove it in your face but they can be rather “Matter-o-fact” which can sometimes be mistaken for “Arrogance” and not confidence, honesty or – a self understood “truth/fact” about one’s self and the acceptance of such. Of course, sometimes this can go for compliments people sometimes give them as well (I have an excellent example).

Cosmic Victim, Are You One?

Crying Angel (Photo credit: Bigod)

Hail and well met one and all. So I have a special treat for you today. This topic I am writing today has sat in my Drafts for a while (Since Oct 22, 2012 to be exact). I finally feel like I can write this topic today, so I hope you enjoy it. It’s another “Food for Thought” but also one of those “Let me just check-in with myself and do a self-assessment“. Now, as you can see by the title we’ll be discussing, what I like to call and maybe others do to – I have no idea, The Cosmic Victim.

Side, Off-Topic Note: By the way, I’m slowly by surely learning to master an iPad. Mwhahaha!

I’m actually still in the process of working and making my own personal “Oracle” and “The Cosmic Victim” is one of my archetypes (I was actually hoping I would finish it before I wrote this up and posted it. Didn’t happen, maybe later I will). Now some of you are probably wondering, “Gee Gwen, how is someone or what makes someone a Cosmic Victim?” I have an answer, thank you for asking.

Sad Chris (Photo credit: Dalboz17)

I’d like to think all the experience I have accumulated up to this point has helped me immensely in understanding this archetype (otherwise I can’t imagine why Spirit would want me to include it in my Oracle if I didn’t). Of the people I have come to know and meet I have met a few “Cosmic Victims“. Now there are perpetual “Cosmic Victims” and then there are those of us who just throw ourselves a temporary “Pity-Party“, get over it and heal to move on to bigger and better things.

What We Want vs. What We Need

Coat of arms of Vancouver (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Hello everyone from Vancouver B.C (my current location)! This is going to be an formal-informal blog today. I hope some of you are enjoying the snow up here. I haven’t gotten to throw my snowball yet at my friend. I hope to do that maybe tomorrow if that. It’s very cold though, colder than back home and our winter’s (I heard they got snow as well after I left, poo!), but I’m staying warm, though I almost caught a cold on my 1st day. Thanks be to Spirit I didn’t! Yay! Moving on to today’s topic though, let’s do that.

I’m not sure if I’ve done this topic already. I think I’ve “Touched Base” on it before, but I don’t think I’ve gone in-depth about it. If I’m wrong though, I got some deleting to do, me thinks, later.

If You Love Them – Let Them Grow

extraversion + introversion (Photo credit: tind)

So this is going to be an informal posting for you all as opposed to how I normally do things. In the midst of me trying to get ready for my trip to Vancouver this next coming week (still majorly excited to see IT and my friend) I’m trying my best to tie up any loose ends I still have yet to finish up before I leave on my trip. I’ve gotten a few things knocked off my check list but I still have a couple more things to go. Recently though, I was reminded of something very important that might be nice to tie-in with my last post.

Now this might be beating a dead horse, since I touched on it last post, but it is an important element that I felt bared repeating and what helped inspire a deeper sense of understanding for me recently was a little comic a Deviantart artist did to explain how Introverts work. Now I know I’m not an Introvert and while I may appear to be an Extrovert, in reality I’m actually more of an Ambivert which is a combination of the two. From the comic I was able to draw from it elements that are true about my nature and others that do not apply.