Taking a brief reprieve from my feverish novel-writing – I decided I had time today to at least write a short topic of interest. Whether it is a dating site or a regular networking site I’ve seen people say, “If you are a Drama Magnet, don’t be friends with me,” “I don’t want any Drama Queens either. You better have your sh*t together” or “I’ve had enough drama in my life. I don’t need anymore“. When people say such things I often have to wonder, what do you mean? Consider this – if Drama is constituted as “Any” regular problem that may arise in our lives that helps to strengthen, shape, and hammer us into who we are as we move along the wheel of life, how can the world or people truly be without Drama?
I suppose the types of people perhaps these people are talking about are those who like to “Stir the pot” (i.e. make trouble) or those who take on problems of others as if they are their own. One of my best-friends did the latter in High Schooland I often remarked about how he shouldn’t be treating his friend’s drama as his own, that he had enough to worry about and that it wasn’t his relationship to worry about (relationship drama can be the worst on a friendship at times). Eventually he learned this – but through the hard way as some of us do (a good old cold hard “Clue x 4”).
But truly GOOD friends, we all should know, will be there through “thick and thin” and often help to shoulder the burdens that are too much for one person alone to bear. There’s nothing wrong with this. So my second question in all this is – where do these people draw the “line” on what is “Unnecessary Drama” and “Drama Worth Helping With“? People are always going to have problems or obstacles that will arise in order to “challenge” them as people. In the end, no one can ever truly be “Drama Free”.
What are your thoughts on this?