The Most Vulgar Phrase You May Ever Hear…

WARNING! This topic may be offensive to certain parties. Its intent is not to be hurtful or even discriminate against said party(ies) but to provide a new level of ‘awareness’ to those who it DOES apply to. You have been adequately warned, proceed to read at your own risk. Thank you for your understanding.

The most vulgar and ugly phrase I have come across in the human language by far has to be, are you ready? “You’re going to hell!“. Yep. You read that right and that’s definitely what I typed, “You’re going to hell!”. You might be wondering how in the world this simple phrase can honestly and truly be so vulgar, but – think about it. How would you feel if someone said this very thing to you?
Especially if you considered yourself say, a ‘Good Christian‘. What if you were a non-Christian?

Non-Christian folk often have to put up with hearing this sort of thing all the time, especially if they’ve chosen a different path that they feel, honestly and truly connects them with the Divine in some way. In our world, there is not just one path to God, Yahweh, Gaia or whatever name you use to refer to the creator, there are many. Some are honestly more positive than others.

Now bear with me because I will be, most likely, pulling the Christians a few times in here, only because they are the best example. So if your Christian and don’t like being criticized, you were warned earlier but – this is where you may wish to get off. Just saying.

It’s no secret that I’m not a Christian – but I have Christian roots and so I try to be as respectful as I can toward the religion. The people on the other hand – they are hit or miss. It’s like what Gandhi said, “I like your Christ. I do not like your Christians, they are so unlike your Christ,” and that has been my general feeling of most “All smiles” Christians I meet.

Not to mention these folks often show their true colors when I get anywhere near beliefs or slip-up and possibly mention, I’m Pagan or something. They typically flip-out on me, more often than not, and say, “OMG! You’re going to hell!“. Hell, they might as well be saying, “OMG! You’re a horrible, terrible person and no matter what good you do on any other path you are STILL a terrible human being and God hates you!“.

There’s a lot in that simple phrase isn’t there? Or at least, there is a lot you can take away from such a simple phrase alone. I’m not the only one who has heard these words nor felt their sting and some folks can very easily brush it off, but for others more sensitive it’s much harder to shake because they are often good people and why people like these can’t see that, it just baffles them like crazy – and so they question and wonder why this is.

You’re going to hell!” can create such self-doubt and negativity in people and as you could see from my example above earlier, just make folks feel downright terrible or at the very least, has the potential to. While it is a fact that in the Bible it states, all people are sinners and will go to Hell if they don’t repent for their sins and supposedly return to the “One true religion“, folks seem to feel that saying this to folks who aren’t like them is acceptable and that it does no harm.

But it does do harm. It is very negative and it is doing nothing to uplift people’s spirits when they are down, depressed, hate their life or really hate themselves. There may be other texts they could refer to that might help these states of being but certainly not, “You’re going to hell!” alone.

This phrase makes folks feel so very judged and in the Bible, if some of you remember your Sunday School lessons or remember your Bible stories well enough, you’d know there is a very famous quote or two about this, “Judge not, lest ye be judged,” and let’s not forget this one, “Let he who is without sin, cast the first stone“.
If you were truly as good of a Religious-abiding citizen that you are, then you should know better, but there are plenty of folks who seem to completely ignore this or at the very least, “Pick and Choose” what they will listen to in the Bible. And most folks say, “You can’t do that,” but everyone who is Christian that I met, does.

Anyone who is a Veteran of the internet has most likely seen some of the religious memes that go around and they are there because in many cases – they are very true.

So the next time you want to tell someone they are, “Going to hell!” and you think you are doing them a favor by saying so, shut up. No seriously, shut up, because it honestly falls within the lines of, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all“. As juvenile as that sounds, it’s true. You do more harm than good with it and folks don’t like others shoving their beliefs down their throat anyway.

If you want to be a truly ‘Good‘ anything religion wise, share with folks why you love the path your on. Show them and tell them all the good and positive things it has done for you. I’m sure the Priest, Rabbi, Pastor or whatever will eventually have a sermon about how unrepentant folks are, “Going to hell,” but honestly, it’s not your job, duty nor right. You are judging others and if you don’t want them to judge you in the same harsh and over-critical way, do what Jeshua (Jesus) did.

Show us “Sinners” some kindness, compassion and respect. ASK us if we WANT to hear about your religion and why it makes you so happy. Just be prepared that if you ask, we may ask in kind for you to do the same so we can share with you why our path, that may be drastically different from yours, has brought us such happiness, peace, tranquility and joy too.

If you truly want people to come around to “Your way” a positive approach makes a whole hell of a difference. So, next time you want to say, “You’re going to Hell,” try something different. Try something surprisingly positive and try to be just a little less judgmental and you just might get a positive response back. You will certainly be a little more “well received” at the very least. Unless someone is just having a bad day, but even then – sometimes a kind word goes a long way and makes huge difference.

I hope you enjoyed the post today, found it informative and were able to take something positive from it. If not, I’m including a song to hopefully help elevate your mood, but my taste in genres may not be the same, so we’ll see.

Thank you for reading and as always,

~May you be blessed in all your paths, Infinite love and gratitude, Namaste~

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2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Svartulfr Þorirsson
    Feb 26, 2015 @ 11:54:05

    I get what your saying, but for me its no offense to tell me I’m going to hell. Don’t forget since I’m heathen its not a place of punishment but merely a resting place if you don’t die in battle.

    • Lady Gwendolynn
      Feb 26, 2015 @ 13:29:44

      That’s true enough – but all the same the sentiment is still a -very- negative one. I don’t usually hear of too many Pagan related Religions that tell their folks they are sinners and going to hell if they don’t repent. In fact, I usually hear there are two places folks can go to. If you are a good natured person in life, you will go to a ‘Nirvana’, Heaven or whatever, but is is known at least as a sort of ‘Paradise’ to say the least.

      As for the Hell in other religions, I have seen and read mention of a couple and it’s typically reserved for those who do “ill-will” or just plain bad, evil and typically they can get out of it -if- they learn from their mistakes in life in order to be reborn again to have a second chance to make it right. In a way, that is atonement of some kind just for the right sort of people.

      I don’t think it’s very kind or nice to tell someone who is overall a -very- good person that -they- are going to hell. Even for folks who have no Religion at all, whether you believe in that religion or no and what it stands for, it still sucks to be told that or to hear people say it to others sometimes around you.

      It’s another form of judgment, one that is very harsh (as I said before) and if those folks actually took a moment to look within themselves, they’d see how much they most likely hate themselves and their lives and wouldn’t want to wish the same on someone else (hopefully). They might even try to seek help.

      I suppose if someone tells you, “You’re going to Hell,” we should just see it honestly as a “cry for help” because obviously they are very miserable and insecure in their own lives that they feel the need to bring others down in order to help themselves feel good about themselves, but even I’m still working on “Nice” things I can say in return to someone who says these kinds of things.

      I have been for years now. :/ And as someone who was originally raised Christian, it’s not always easy to shake unless the folks of the Religion just -really- gave you complete and utter reason to loathe, detest and despise them….which I don’t. *shrugs*

      Everyone deals and copes with things in their own way though and I thought people should be ‘made aware’ that this can be more hurtful and harmful than they may even know.

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