Careful! It’s a TRAP! Holiday Loans, beware!

My partner recently got a flyer-postcard in the mail from a company offering folks “loans” for the holiday so they could have the funds to purchase gifts for their loved ones. I had to do a double-take and shake my head, not to mention I was a little upset at this ploy.

A lot of folks are already in debt. Lots of folks are STILL recovering from the recession or they just are barely making enough to scrape by with how things have been in the economy. “Let’s help them be MORE in-debt by offering them loans!” *Phoney Big grin with two thumbs up, then frowny face* Ye-ah, no.

Folks, please – for the love of all things pure, sacred and holy, don’t fall for this load of horse manure. It’s really just a trick. You DON’T need it!

This time of year is supposed to be about family, togetherness, kindness, compassion and tender moments. It is more than just “material” based goods. Physical gifts are a simple perk. They aren’t necessary to enjoy this time of year.

If you are so worried about giving something, try a thoughtful card with one of your favorite quotations. Or try making a hand-made-home-made ornament. Perhaps learn a song someone in your family really loves and sing it for them. There are other ways you can show you care and give a “gift” of sorts to someone. Sometimes gifts aren’t always physical either, sometimes they are intangible.

Those are often the best gifts because they touch our souls and often last past the moment in which they were commenced, performed or otherwise. Those are the best. If you truly, absolutely, have nothing to give. Please don’t sweat it! Those who are your true friends and family should and WILL understand your circumstance. They shouldn’t need a physical gift to confirm why you are so special to them or worth having in their life. That should already come on its own.

They should be grateful for what they have and so should you. This truly is a time of also being grateful for what we do have. So think on that for a while.

This Holiday season I urge and implore you, don’t fall for the hype and get yourself a loan. Forget the “peer-pressure“. Do what’s right for you. Do what is within your means to do. And have a wonderful holiday season!

Thank you for reading as always. Much love and gratitude.

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~Infinite love and gratitude, Namaste~

Random Acts of Kindness: Unexpected Appreciation

In my last P.A.U. (Personal Author Update) I discussed doing and/or sharing “Random act of kindness” which are “senseless acts of beauty“. So I got it in my head today that RAoK is what should be the topic for my next blog.

The theme as you can see is “Unexpected Appreciation“. This is about the folks who do the “grunt” or “dirty work” that most other folks may or may not want to do. The jobs that keep the cogs and wheels turning of our society that allow us to enjoy and benefit from the modern conveniences that we have today. Folks like the Delivery Person who delivers your package, food or other goods, the people in the cooler where the Milk and other refrigerated products are kept, Waiters and Waitresses, all those sorts of nitty-gritty jobs, that’s what I’m talking about.

The kinds of jobs that some folks would absolutely either dread, have done and hate and refuse to ever do again or might even slightly enjoy because it keeps them out of sight and mind so no one bothers them (except for the boss), asks questions or just pesters them in general because – let’s face it, some customers and/or clients – can be very rude and obnoxious.

You know the customers that leave product on the ground that has to be “claimsed” out (this means to tag out the product because it can no longer be sold because it has been ruined in some way), leave frozen things out after they decided not to buy them, drop their kids off in electronics or toys leaving a mass of mayhem and chaos in their wakes, the ones who have a grudge and pick you as the first person to take their company complaints and vendettas against (Yeah, you all! You know who you are!).

Now that you got a pretty good picture of what those unruly and rude customers are like, hopefully you can understand why I picked this very thing to cover. To me, these folks, in a way, are like the unsung Heroes of whatever it is – they do. They put up with SO much! Even I had to put up with crap like this when I worked in retail and it happens often and daily. Some of you may have wondered before I described the “Worst Customers Ever“, “Why this?“, but hopefully you understand now why some folks, especially these folks, might grow to hate their jobs or otherwise and why I chose them specifically as my focus. More

An Open Letter to the Fashion Industry and Media

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I know what the title says and it’s true, this is my open letter to them – AND – to YOU. Yes you. That short and stout, the big and tall, the svelte and short, tall and svelte, the big breasted or too small to count (at least to those ignorant to think so) lad and lassie. I know your pains, for I have felt them too. I know friends and family who could even sympathize with you.

It sucks when you feel singled out in a world that caters to a supposed “Average”. You go to the store when it is time to find new shoes or clothes, but either something is too long, such as the sleeves or pant-legs even. Maybe it is the ‘bust’ on that beautiful blouse that’s in size “XS” but the bust you’d swear is “32C” instead of perhaps a “32A” like you feel it should be.

We cry, “It’s not fair! It’s not right!” because we shouldn’t be made to feel like we are anything ‘less’ for choosing to be who we are – or want to be. Whether that is aesthetics or personality. We also know people will say, “Well the world isn’t fair, don’t you know that!” and you know what? I think that’s a load of rubbish. I believe the world could be fair if it wanted to be, maybe even if perhaps we believed it to be. It’s just other negative people around us who keep perpetuating this negative notion that there is no “Fairness” in the world.

You have every right to feel angry and upset that you often feel singled out by the Fashion Industry and/or the Media. Even give them the “Ol’bird”. It’s really all their fault anyway. They find what they consider, “The Average” and make clothing to cater to it. Then it’s “One size fits most” and you know – you aren’t “most“. Your body is as unique as your personality, and you know that for a fact.

What’s also not fair, is for people who tend to run on the “Skinny” or “Svelte” side of things, they make our clothes based off run-way models whom many have been bullied into changing their figures or getting plastic surgery to fit the Fashion and Media’s idea of what “beautiful” is in the first place.

Maybe you were even told to “Go eat a sandwich“, even in a joking manner, only to find you thought it rather insulting because people really don’t know how much you’ve tried to gain weight but never have any luck. Or perhaps – you’re just built that way and happy with your size but find it very ignorant of them for saying such things without even asking you how you feel about your own weight – or why so skinny? in the first place. More

FanExpo 2013 – Review

Dawn (Me) striking a Heroic Pose in the driver's seat of the DeLorean (Time Machine from Back to the Future).

Dawn (Me) striking a Heroic Pose in the driver’s seat of the DeLorean (Time Machine from Back to the Future). Was my best picture I think.

Hello everyone!

Welcome back for the FanExpo of 2013 Review. It’s a week or week and a half late but oh well, better late than never I definitely say. 😛

Did I have fun you wonder? Not as much as I usually have at say SakuraCon or possibly Emerald City ComiCon (and I’ve only been to ComiCon 1 year before mind you). It wasn’t the worst convention I’ve ever been too either, but it was one that showed it was a “Work-in-Progress“. So here are my Pros, what little there are, and Cons for FanExpo 2013 Experience.

Con 1; Ticket Lines – I got there at 5:30 in the morning hoping to beat many of the other people who would need to buy tickets at the door for the convention. Why? Well from the fact I’ve been to SakuraCon and know how long the door-line can get, it’s a wise idea, typically. However, I was also there because I had heard from a pretty reliable source that they “Oversold” tickets for the convention online.

So even if you HAD a ticket to get in, there was NO guarantee you might ACTUALLY get in after all. Which I know would have royally miffed a few Con-goers and the Con may very well be a disaster on that basis alone. However, as time went on it didn’t look quite like tickets were as much an issue as I once thought they were going to be. As they announced to us who were waiting, patient and eagar to buy our tickets in line, “We are going to start out selling 300 tickets,” and then they let slip the dogs of war. WHAT?! It was about to be a Geek-War come on! 😛 More

Is Business to Blame for Social Negative Reinforcement?

English: Don Mueang Airport domestic terminal,...

English: Don Mueang Airport domestic terminal, near Bangkok, Thailand – Thai Airways customer service counters. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

A dear friend of mine I met through SecondLife and I were sharing a conversation yesterday about our experiences in Retail. Especially those terribly “negative” experiences we have had in the retail environment. For those unfamiliar with the Retail market, it can be pretty cut-throat, unforgiving, unfair and sometimes – very unrewarding (especially sometimes with how the CUSTOMERS treat you). Course, it depends on the type of Retailer you are.

I tend to find Small Retail Businesses (Mom and Pop Stores) are better, friendlier, care about their employees (more often than not), appreciate them, believe in what they are selling and more. Course this isn’t true for EVERYONE I’m sure, but that’s been my experience.

However, during the conversation it sparked the idea for a possible Psychological aspect of Retail that goes unconsidered. Big Retailers often do specific things with their inventory (ex: Move sh*t around on you) that may annoy or irritate you, but the ploy that they are aiming for is to get you to spend more time than you’d like and tempt you to buy more than what you actually NEED. Some of you are probably going, “Well Duh!“, humor me – for those who don’t know. Thank you.

As I was saying, now while they have Psychological ploys like this to boost sales, my question is – are they thinking about some of the “Negative Reinforcement” they are helping to promote when it comes to society/their customer base? More

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