An Open Letter to the Fashion Industry and Media


I know what the title says and it’s true, this is my open letter to them – AND – to YOU. Yes you. That short and stout, the big and tall, the svelte and short, tall and svelte, the big breasted or too small to count (at least to those ignorant to think so) lad and lassie. I know your pains, for I have felt them too. I know friends and family who could even sympathize with you.

It sucks when you feel singled out in a world that caters to a supposed “Average”. You go to the store when it is time to find new shoes or clothes, but either something is too long, such as the sleeves or pant-legs even. Maybe it is the ‘bust’ on that beautiful blouse that’s in size “XS” but the bust you’d swear is “32C” instead of perhaps a “32A” like you feel it should be.

We cry, “It’s not fair! It’s not right!” because we shouldn’t be made to feel like we are anything ‘less’ for choosing to be who we are – or want to be. Whether that is aesthetics or personality. We also know people will say, “Well the world isn’t fair, don’t you know that!” and you know what? I think that’s a load of rubbish. I believe the world could be fair if it wanted to be, maybe even if perhaps we believed it to be. It’s just other negative people around us who keep perpetuating this negative notion that there is no “Fairness” in the world.

You have every right to feel angry and upset that you often feel singled out by the Fashion Industry and/or the Media. Even give them the “Ol’bird”. It’s really all their fault anyway. They find what they consider, “The Average” and make clothing to cater to it. Then it’s “One size fits most” and you know – you aren’t “most“. Your body is as unique as your personality, and you know that for a fact.

What’s also not fair, is for people who tend to run on the “Skinny” or “Svelte” side of things, they make our clothes based off run-way models whom many have been bullied into changing their figures or getting plastic surgery to fit the Fashion and Media’s idea of what “beautiful” is in the first place.

Maybe you were even told to “Go eat a sandwich“, even in a joking manner, only to find you thought it rather insulting because people really don’t know how much you’ve tried to gain weight but never have any luck. Or perhaps – you’re just built that way and happy with your size but find it very ignorant of them for saying such things without even asking you how you feel about your own weight – or why so skinny? in the first place. More

P.A.U. 21 – Long time no blog!

Hello everyone!

It’s FINALLY me again and I’m sorry it’s been pretty much 2 weeks, maybe over that without so much as a, “Hey! How you all doing? I’m okay! I got back home from my trip just fine and this is how FanExpo was!” but I have been busy. Not long after I came home I had to prep for house-sitting. Then while house-sitting, I know I’d have been blogging if I could, but I decided to help out around the house with some extra cleaning that I know would be appreciated by the family once they got back.

I did make it to FanExpo (2013) in Vancouver, B.C. and honestly? It wasn’t that impressive to me, but I have another blog I’d like to dedicate to it for a full detailed review as to why I wasn’t that thrilled with it. I will say putting my make-up on for my costume was totally worth it because I got recognized by a handful of people and THAT was fun. For those unaware, I went as ‘Dawn’ from the ‘Cry for Dawn‘ comics and ‘Dawn Trilogy‘. I just threw something together that looked Dawn-esque and went from there. The Make-up and accents are what really made it.

My man reminded me he missed my blogging which told me, I REALLY should try to make some time for updating my blog. I told myself I was going to, especially when I was house-sitting, but that didn’t work out so well. So here I am today, trying to do just that.

For those wondering about my ‘Donation Pool’ thing I’m trying to do, I have good news and bad news. Bad news is – I still have some kinks to work out of the 1st plan I had. The Good news? I may have yet another GREAT contingency plan that would work out far better than the 1st. Just all depends on YOU and the amount of traffic I bring in to my blog. I’ll tell you more as the plan truly unfolds and if I hit another ‘snag‘ I’ll tell you about it. Don’t worry.

Bright side? Some of the stuff on my ‘Project List‘ I want to see done, is slowly happening for some parts of the town. Houses that I wanted to help paint are getting painted, whether or not they are getting inspected too for health and safety though, is another story. Still, someone said, “Maybe it’s all your positive energy you are putting toward it that’s helping make it happen? And maybe it’s Spirit’s way of saying, You should save & spend your money on other projects – I got this one.” would be kind of cool.

Hard to say though. Any who, I need to update the info in the project page and hopefully type up some other posts today like a ‘Mad-woman’. I hope all of you out there are well and are experiencing blog success in your own way or whatever kind of success you’d like to be having right now. Until next time – thank you for reading!

~Blessings & good fortune, Namaste~

P.A.U. 10 – NaNoWriMo Winner! End of an Era and more…

Dark Horse promotional comic cover

Dark Horse promotional comic cover (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Greetins Lads and Lassies!

Tis I, the fearless blogger Gwendolynn back from NaNoWriMo-Space! My Novel is complete! Well – pretty much. There is one more chapter I’d like to add/insert but my muse decided to inspire and run away before I could get proper notes taken and now I’m feeling like I’m up a creek without a paddle BUT – the good news is, the novel “Operation Charlie Bravo” is pretty much done. I’m debating now on printing out a hard-copy for editing when I take my trip up to Vancouver, B.C. in the next couple weeks. My friend I’ll be visiting wants to read it but I’ve been torn to try to keep him from reading it since it is the “Raw” ugly, unedited monster that it is.

So as I was wrapping up my novel City of Heroes, the NCsoft published game, lifespan was drawing to a close. On November 29th and 30th I logged in for last screenshots, information collection and other things. One of my good friends I met through City of Heroes and I went to the place that got him hooked on the game, because he saw the sunset there and thought it was absolutely gorgeous, Siren’s Call. Our timing couldn’t have been better. As the game was down to its last few moments being online, my friend and I watched the sunset in Siren’s Call. It felt very poetic and in a way – heroically epic. What a way to go out. He came into the game because of that Sunset and he went out watching it with a friend. I’d say there’s no better way we could have spent the moment other than maybe being surrounded by a crowd of the friends we made and met in-game. More

Not Everything Is so Black & White, There is Grey

Shaiya, Goddess of Light and Goddess of Shadow

In these last few months I have come to understand and met people who see the world from a very “Black and White” perspective. For those unfamiliar with a perspective like this, it means, someone who sees good and bad only or what is perceived Good and Evil only, with no leeway for anything in between.

So if you screw-up with a friend who has this type of perspective, chances are they are going to kick you to the curb or like a bad habit quicker than you can say, “I’m sorry” and sincerely mean it. These individuals most likely may even be the sort to easily hold grudges (I can attest to the fact this is true of both people I knew).

The wondrous and yet sad part is, the world is far from being so one-way or another. It is more than just “Black” and “White“. It is many shades of “Grey” as well. Nothing is ever as it seems and yet sometimes it can be exactly that. It all depends upon the person as we are ALL just as capable of Good, Evil, or walking “The Silver Line“. More

P.A.U. 7 – End of…Heroes?

City Of Heroes: Delta Arietis

City Of Heroes: Delta Arietis (Photo credit: Psycho Al)

Hello to all my readers! Sorry you’ve experienced some serious “break-ups” between my posts. I seem terrible about trying to keep up with a weekly posting instead of a daily posting. I apologize for that. I wish I felt much more motivated to do my musings as of late, but ah me – that’s life.

There’s been much weighing on my heart and mind as of late and those take priority, sadly. You will be happy to know I’ve done some reading. I’m currently enjoying the rest of the Circle Trilogy (Morrigan’s Cross, The Dance, The Valley of Silence) by Nora Roberts. I have to say, I don’t think she’s a terrible author, but I haven’t been jivingon her style. It seems straight forward and normal enough, but I don’t know if someone edited these books before they went to publishing. I felt that at times I couldn’t tell who was talking as far as dialogue goes (had to re-read certain passages at times over again) at times and sometimes the writer’s voice was a touch choppy here and there and not understandable. More

Ego vs. Spirit – What is the Difference?

This person is sitting on the embankment of th...

This person is sitting on the embankment of the harbor of Wijk bij Duurstede and looking to the moored boats. (Photo credit:

Some of us out there often wonder how people can treat others poorly without a single thought, care or concern for the mark they leave behind on the people in their lives or that they meet on the street, even the internet. I’ve especially wondered this myself when it concerns people who are very “Egocentric” vs. “Spiritcentric“. In order to understand the two words though, you need to define them. What does Egocentric mean?

Egocentric – Definition from

1. having or regarding the self or the individual as the center of all things: an egocentric philosophy that ignores social causes.
2. having little or no regard for interests, beliefs, or attitudes other than one’s own; self-centered: an egocentric person; egocentric demands upon the time and patience of others.

Nice Guys Finish FIRST!

Mountains in Tolima Colombia

Mountains in Tolima Colombia (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I’m sure many people out there have heard the phrase, “Nice Guys Finish last,” well I don’t believe nor do I subscribe to this belief. I never have and NEVER will. Life to me is what you make it. If you believe you are a Nice Guy and you put belief into such negative mantras, you only hurt yourself. I am confident I have a pretty excellent formula for success and happiness for “The Nice Guy Who Want to Finish First” and I want to share it with you all and if you try it out and you notice improvements in your lifestyle, let me know and if not, tell me what didn’t work. However, give it time. These things don’t just happen overnight. They take time. Also feel free to comment with your thoughts or add some advice of your own if you think it will help as well or you know that it will. More

P.A.U.3: A “Heroes” Retrospection


Heroes (Photo credit: Cristiano Betta)

Today has been a rather interesting day for me. Today is a true MUSING for me today about life, myself and more.

I have been busy as of late trying to work and improve my writing style, work on my novel and trying to catch up with the television series “Heroes” where I had missed two seasons (3 & 4). What’s funny is – last night I had asked Spirit to try to use my dreams to teach me lessons more often than not so I could perhaps speed up my personal learning a bit (When I have Linear type dreams it’s a BIG DEAL for me because it is so rare and it means “Pay Attention“).

Emotionally I have been going through a great deal and trying to work through past wounds to heal and move on with my life as a better and stronger individual. This has been a struggle more often than not because I often feel so small and alone despite always being the “Rock” people turn to for advice and support. Even a Priestess needs her fellow “Priest” or “Priestess” to talk to though on the occasion and even the strong are entitled to their moments of weakness. After all, we are only Human.


Symbole_Heroes (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Well, to keep a long story short I had a dream where I was in the Heroes universe where I had left off in the story, but the landscape was a bit different…

Now before you read any further there MAY or MAY NOT be SPOILERS. I’ll try my best to keep it from Spoiling too much if anything at all. If you fear that I may spoil something, don’t read any further. *cough* As I was saying… More

Mother God, Father God

The Theotokos of Vladimir, one of the most ven...

The Theotokos of Vladimir, one of the most venerated of Orthodox Christian icons of the Virgin Mary. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Whether you believe it or not, all religions no matter what they are have some commonalities one way or another. Many cultures out there who have their own religion had little or NO contact (way back in the day) with some of these cultures who’s religions are now major in the world at large. One of these commonalities I see and feel that has been a persistent element is that of the “Mother God” and “Father God” themes. More

Pro/Active Responsibility

El prisionero en esta fotografía apodado Maest...

Prisión del Condado de Mantras, Colombia (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Responsibility. What does it means to be Responsible? Responsibility is defined thus:

1. the state or fact of being responsible.
2. an instance of being responsible: The responsibility for this mess is yours!
3. a particular burden of obligation upon one who is responsible: the responsibilities of authority.
4. a person or thing for which one is responsible: A child is a responsibility to its parents.
5. reliability or dependability, especially in meeting debts or payments.

and/or:Me distributing supplies to farmers

1. the state or position of being responsible
2. a person or thing for which one is responsible
3. the ability or authority to act or decide on one’s own, without supervision


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