An Open Letter to the Fashion Industry and Media


I know what the title says and it’s true, this is my open letter to them – AND – to YOU. Yes you. That short and stout, the big and tall, the svelte and short, tall and svelte, the big breasted or too small to count (at least to those ignorant to think so) lad and lassie. I know your pains, for I have felt them too. I know friends and family who could even sympathize with you.

It sucks when you feel singled out in a world that caters to a supposed “Average”. You go to the store when it is time to find new shoes or clothes, but either something is too long, such as the sleeves or pant-legs even. Maybe it is the ‘bust’ on that beautiful blouse that’s in size “XS” but the bust you’d swear is “32C” instead of perhaps a “32A” like you feel it should be.

We cry, “It’s not fair! It’s not right!” because we shouldn’t be made to feel like we are anything ‘less’ for choosing to be who we are – or want to be. Whether that is aesthetics or personality. We also know people will say, “Well the world isn’t fair, don’t you know that!” and you know what? I think that’s a load of rubbish. I believe the world could be fair if it wanted to be, maybe even if perhaps we believed it to be. It’s just other negative people around us who keep perpetuating this negative notion that there is no “Fairness” in the world.

You have every right to feel angry and upset that you often feel singled out by the Fashion Industry and/or the Media. Even give them the “Ol’bird”. It’s really all their fault anyway. They find what they consider, “The Average” and make clothing to cater to it. Then it’s “One size fits most” and you know – you aren’t “most“. Your body is as unique as your personality, and you know that for a fact.

What’s also not fair, is for people who tend to run on the “Skinny” or “Svelte” side of things, they make our clothes based off run-way models whom many have been bullied into changing their figures or getting plastic surgery to fit the Fashion and Media’s idea of what “beautiful” is in the first place.

Maybe you were even told to “Go eat a sandwich“, even in a joking manner, only to find you thought it rather insulting because people really don’t know how much you’ve tried to gain weight but never have any luck. Or perhaps – you’re just built that way and happy with your size but find it very ignorant of them for saying such things without even asking you how you feel about your own weight – or why so skinny? in the first place. More

P.A.U. 10 – NaNoWriMo Winner! End of an Era and more…

Dark Horse promotional comic cover

Dark Horse promotional comic cover (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Greetins Lads and Lassies!

Tis I, the fearless blogger Gwendolynn back from NaNoWriMo-Space! My Novel is complete! Well – pretty much. There is one more chapter I’d like to add/insert but my muse decided to inspire and run away before I could get proper notes taken and now I’m feeling like I’m up a creek without a paddle BUT – the good news is, the novel “Operation Charlie Bravo” is pretty much done. I’m debating now on printing out a hard-copy for editing when I take my trip up to Vancouver, B.C. in the next couple weeks. My friend I’ll be visiting wants to read it but I’ve been torn to try to keep him from reading it since it is the “Raw” ugly, unedited monster that it is.

So as I was wrapping up my novel City of Heroes, the NCsoft published game, lifespan was drawing to a close. On November 29th and 30th I logged in for last screenshots, information collection and other things. One of my good friends I met through City of Heroes and I went to the place that got him hooked on the game, because he saw the sunset there and thought it was absolutely gorgeous, Siren’s Call. Our timing couldn’t have been better. As the game was down to its last few moments being online, my friend and I watched the sunset in Siren’s Call. It felt very poetic and in a way – heroically epic. What a way to go out. He came into the game because of that Sunset and he went out watching it with a friend. I’d say there’s no better way we could have spent the moment other than maybe being surrounded by a crowd of the friends we made and met in-game. More

P.A.U. 7 – End of…Heroes?

City Of Heroes: Delta Arietis

City Of Heroes: Delta Arietis (Photo credit: Psycho Al)

Hello to all my readers! Sorry you’ve experienced some serious “break-ups” between my posts. I seem terrible about trying to keep up with a weekly posting instead of a daily posting. I apologize for that. I wish I felt much more motivated to do my musings as of late, but ah me – that’s life.

There’s been much weighing on my heart and mind as of late and those take priority, sadly. You will be happy to know I’ve done some reading. I’m currently enjoying the rest of the Circle Trilogy (Morrigan’s Cross, The Dance, The Valley of Silence) by Nora Roberts. I have to say, I don’t think she’s a terrible author, but I haven’t been jivingon her style. It seems straight forward and normal enough, but I don’t know if someone edited these books before they went to publishing. I felt that at times I couldn’t tell who was talking as far as dialogue goes (had to re-read certain passages at times over again) at times and sometimes the writer’s voice was a touch choppy here and there and not understandable. More

Ego vs. Spirit – What is the Difference?

This person is sitting on the embankment of th...

This person is sitting on the embankment of the harbor of Wijk bij Duurstede and looking to the moored boats. (Photo credit:

Some of us out there often wonder how people can treat others poorly without a single thought, care or concern for the mark they leave behind on the people in their lives or that they meet on the street, even the internet. I’ve especially wondered this myself when it concerns people who are very “Egocentric” vs. “Spiritcentric“. In order to understand the two words though, you need to define them. What does Egocentric mean?

Egocentric – Definition from

1. having or regarding the self or the individual as the center of all things: an egocentric philosophy that ignores social causes.
2. having little or no regard for interests, beliefs, or attitudes other than one’s own; self-centered: an egocentric person; egocentric demands upon the time and patience of others.

Nice Guys Finish FIRST!

Mountains in Tolima Colombia

Mountains in Tolima Colombia (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I’m sure many people out there have heard the phrase, “Nice Guys Finish last,” well I don’t believe nor do I subscribe to this belief. I never have and NEVER will. Life to me is what you make it. If you believe you are a Nice Guy and you put belief into such negative mantras, you only hurt yourself. I am confident I have a pretty excellent formula for success and happiness for “The Nice Guy Who Want to Finish First” and I want to share it with you all and if you try it out and you notice improvements in your lifestyle, let me know and if not, tell me what didn’t work. However, give it time. These things don’t just happen overnight. They take time. Also feel free to comment with your thoughts or add some advice of your own if you think it will help as well or you know that it will. More

Pro/Active Responsibility

El prisionero en esta fotografía apodado Maest...

Prisión del Condado de Mantras, Colombia (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Responsibility. What does it means to be Responsible? Responsibility is defined thus:

1. the state or fact of being responsible.
2. an instance of being responsible: The responsibility for this mess is yours!
3. a particular burden of obligation upon one who is responsible: the responsibilities of authority.
4. a person or thing for which one is responsible: A child is a responsibility to its parents.
5. reliability or dependability, especially in meeting debts or payments.

and/or:Me distributing supplies to farmers

1. the state or position of being responsible
2. a person or thing for which one is responsible
3. the ability or authority to act or decide on one’s own, without supervision


A World Without Heroes

English: , from the title sequence of the Supe...

English: , from the title sequence of the Superman cartoons. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Many people in our world have grown up reading comic books their entire lives. Unfortunately, I’m not one of those people. I didn’t really pick up reading comics until my teens or young adult phase. The culprit of such a crime is most likely the fact I couldn’t fluently read until I was twelve. Or maybe it was the fact that as much as I enjoyed watching the old Superhero movies, the Heroes in spandex and tights just never seemed to appeal to me? Now some might be thinking, “Whoa! How could you not like Superheroes?” Well I got my reasons and I’m willing to share them. More

What We Have Here – Is a Failure to Be Creative

Nothing But the Best (album)

Nothing But the Best (album) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

In the last 10 to 20 years or so I have noticed something VERY important to me. With the utmost certainty I’m sure there are others who have noticed the same as I. Creatively Americans have gotten LESS creative. As a whole, it’s hard to say if that stands but when I look at what’s on T.V. and popular today, as compared to when I was growing up from the 90s – up, the quality of what we enjoy in music, television and movies has gone seriously DOWNHILL. I’m seeing a LOT more from Book to Move Adaptations. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE seeing those! I also love the comic ones they are doing (yay for the inner child in some of us being sated by these things). But all this does not make up for the talentless entertainment we have today. I look at countries like Korea and Japan and I’m finding FAR better entertainment there on nearly ALL levels (some of them even have some pretty NIFTY architecture that I wonder why in the world aren’t we taking notes and doing the same?!). My big question is, “Dude, WTF happened?!” I’d like to give some examples and EXPLAIN why they are NOT up to PAR in my book of standards. Granted, some of this is probably going to be stuff some of you like, so no offense, I’m just explaining why I don’t enjoy it. Keep in mind – I’ve tried to give some of this stuff a chance to prove to me it can be redeemed in some way. Hasn’t happened. If anything I feel like half the stuff that’s come out in at LEAST the last 10 years has been garbage! I’ve seen very little that I enjoyed. If I did see something I enjoyed – it’s been ruined or taken off the air or something else.

List of Danny Phantom characters

List of Danny Phantom characters (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

So first example I have of lack of creativity. Music. Music has definitely fallen way down in the gutter. Granted, there have been some decent artists that HAVE come out, but as a whole – this past generation hasn’t been THE most creatively Talented. A great example I saw was this De-motivational poster that my friends were circulating on Facebook. It was Frank Sinatra, one of the Greats in my book of music, vs. Justin Bieber, who I feel (much like Big Time Rush) is just “Eye Candy” for young girls to “Squee” their little selves over…which could be good and bad, depending. More

DmCR-Flop in the Making?


Devil_May_Cry_3_-_Dante's_Awakening_Special_Edition (Photo credit: shinoyh)

We’re going to switch gears today and talk about another something I’m passionate about, Games. It’s a very little known fact – that unless you’ve gotten to know me (or have stolen a peek of my room) you’d NEVER guess I was a “Gamer Chick” from a first meeting. Unless of course the conversation earlier had taken a turn for such. One of my all-time favorite games has to be Devil May Cry.

First game had wonderful story, the writing at times could have used some more work, but overall you got the feel for most of the characters within the story – especially Dante. The sequel – we shall NOT speak its name! It was an utter travesty. From what I remember from the rumor mill, fellow Gamer Nerds included, the DMC – Flop was intended to be a Resident Evil game. Apparently – the project got halted in its tracks and so they SLAPPED DMC skins on it and called it good.  Only it was TERRIBLE and many fans cried and “Nerd-Ragged”. Which accounts for lack of story among other things. DMC3 – Not too bad, you can call me a whiner or whatever – but I wasn’t a fan of how “hard” they made the game. I do like to ENJOY my games – not get frustrated and a headache from it. Granted – I don’t want it too easy either. But all the Fanboys cried about how the previous games were “Too easy” and so that’s how DMC3 came to be (least the story was MUCH better this time). Then you had DMC4with the same level of toughness from what I understand (Haven’t gotten to play it yet – have the game but no PS3 and no Xbox360 *le sigh*). More

NaNoWriMo Day 12 – It’s DONE! Excerpt from Operation Charlie Bravo/Brown

The Vampire

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Fooled yah! No; I’m not done with the novel yet but what I AM done with is my hand-written manuscript. I got to the very last few pages today and have them all typed up. The last bits of it brought me to a word count of 1,557 yay! I honestly feel like the worst of it is over – but I understand I might feel that way again soon as I progress further into the story. My Bad Guy has a pretty interesting and unique name as opposed to *insert blank space here, no really I mean it* and the Council being called something completely ambiguous because I couldn’t think of something at the time. I also officially gave my Vampires the name that use for their kind. Yay!

So okay, I just realized I was right. This next part may be my next hardest. Why? Well as the Blackmore’s Night song goes, “Where are we going from here?” Oh goodie! Well I might very well introduce the Bad Guy and some of the other members of the Council so people get a good idea about who he is – what his personality is like, etc. It would give me a good opportunity to talk about one of my “Good Guy” character’s who is supposed to be spying on his butt. 😛

As a sort of “whoopee! We’ve made it this far” I’ve decided I’ve had a change of heart and that I might like to show an excerpt from my novel I am working on. It gives you an idea of the main Protagonists personality and it includes fun bad@$$ banter. 😀 Please keep in mind what you are reading is taken from the portion that is 2 yrs old so it’s definitely rough for sure. I will be putting this on my NaNoWriMo author page as well. 🙂 So you know the female is the “Good Guy” or main character of our story. Enjoy! More

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